Coming out of the woodwork

Hi all--sorry it's been a long time since posts.

Well, the past three weeks have been a little exciting, frustrating, surprising. On one Thursday about three weeks ago, I heard from not one, but two guys. Both have been friends of late and I was surprised at the interest in me.

Guy 1 (Shy Guy) has been a friend for a few years. He's part of a group of people that all hang around together. He's a shy bachelor, never married. He's friendly and sweet. Anyway, he called and wanted to know if I would like to go to a concert with him. Yes, I said, thinking that it was just part of the group. When he said, "Well, it's a date then" I was slightly taken aback. The concert is actually in May, so he then asked for a date earlier. He was very sweet on the phone, telling me that I made him feel so at ease with my friendly personality. I let him know that I was nervous about the dating a friend part....and that I had dated another man in the group about 3 years before. We decided that we would try a date or two and see how it worked.

So Friday night, Shy Guy and I went out and had a really nice time. He treated me to the ballet, then out for late-night appetizers and wine. He's fun and sweet. The BIG question is: do i feel a physical attraction there? So far, only friendship. But I'm willing to try another date to see.

Guy 2 (Tall Guy) has been a friend a little under a year. Actually, I met him through a singles activity group and we clicked. Then I saw him on one of the online dating sites and approached him to maybe get to know each other better. He kindly responded that he wanted to just be friends and was not really dating anyone. To make a long story short, we kept up a loose friendship, he dating someone else, I dated someone else. He asked me to go dancing one night (as friends with his gal's blessing) , but other than that we just saw each other in group occasions and talked maybe once every 10 days by short emails).

About three weeks ago, he let me know that he and his girlfriend were breaking up and wanted to know if I was free to date. We had some serious in-depth discussion since I didn't want to be his reason for breaking up (they had dated about 5 months) and I didn't want to be a rebound girl. He confessed that after going dancing that night (it was very platonic as we belong to the activity group that dances frequently together), that he has serious doubts that he was even dating the right girl...and that maybe it should have been me.

So the other night, now free from his obligations to the girlfriend, we saw each other for a rather short date. Tall Guy brought over some wine, cheese and crackers and we just talked. I find him very attractive physically, intellectually and emotionally. We are just at the start of getting to know each other, so I'm taking it all really slow. We have another date this coming weekend and hopefully we'll be getting more clairity if this is something we want to continue.

And so i move on!