As the weeks are progressing, The Boyfriend and I are find our own groove, routine, whatever you want to call it. I'm adjusting well to the "next phase" I think.
He comes over in the evenings after his martial arts class to have dinner and I'm enjoying cooking for such an appreciative eater. For those who don't know, he's an ex-high school jock and eats a LOT. He makes time to keep in good shape and eats healthy even if it's portions that would feed a small army of Sassies.
Anyway, the other evening we were sitting on the deck eating dinner and listening to music and the sounds of summer in Virginia. I am really enjoying this time since it's a good time to swap stories, make requests and propose new ideas for what we'd like to do for fun. Whatever we talk about--our weekend before, the week coming up, friends and neighbors, families, what we are thinking--is always fun. We tend to laugh a lot and I love that. We don't always see eye-to-eye, but we are old enough and experienced enough to listen and respectfully disagree.
I have to confess that I still miss the wooing and chase a bit, but I do love the realization that he is my steady, enjoys me and thinks I'm amazing. And that is the comfort of finding the comfortable stage.
Friday, June 27, 2008
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Amazing Adult Relationship
A few weeks ago, the Boyfriend and I had plans to go downtown dancing. As we got ready to leave my house, a little disagreement insued. I was angry and frustrated; he was frustrated. We argued a little bit, then got in the car to leave. I decided to just be a quiet, knowing that if I talked, I would add to the tension.
When we got to the parking lot, Boyfriend and I got out and he suggested that we walk around the long way. At the corner of Main and 6th he stopped and requested that we talk about what had just happened. He was low-key and quiet about it, but clearly wanted to communicate. Boyfriend asked me what was under my anger and really, truly wanted to see why I was so upset.
When we started talking I noticed his demeanor was calm and logical. I told him that I felt critized, and that my feelings were hurt. He told me that he understood and pointed out that what we were talking about was trivial compared to our relationship. We talked about how I could feel better (a solution!) and decided to go and have a good time dancing.
Saturday we talked a little again and I was just blown away by having a boyfriend that is so calm and understanding. This is showing me that this is a real adult relationship with people who want to communicate and find a place where both can be happy. He also mentioned that he was grateful to have a girlfriend who was willing to be open and communicate and work things out to grow and learn.
Once again, the Boyfriend is proving to be someone I am happy to have in my life.
When we got to the parking lot, Boyfriend and I got out and he suggested that we walk around the long way. At the corner of Main and 6th he stopped and requested that we talk about what had just happened. He was low-key and quiet about it, but clearly wanted to communicate. Boyfriend asked me what was under my anger and really, truly wanted to see why I was so upset.
When we started talking I noticed his demeanor was calm and logical. I told him that I felt critized, and that my feelings were hurt. He told me that he understood and pointed out that what we were talking about was trivial compared to our relationship. We talked about how I could feel better (a solution!) and decided to go and have a good time dancing.
Saturday we talked a little again and I was just blown away by having a boyfriend that is so calm and understanding. This is showing me that this is a real adult relationship with people who want to communicate and find a place where both can be happy. He also mentioned that he was grateful to have a girlfriend who was willing to be open and communicate and work things out to grow and learn.
Once again, the Boyfriend is proving to be someone I am happy to have in my life.
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