Hot Tuna

Tonight BuffaloBoy cooked dinner for me at his old, groovy house. I think it was a very big deal for him--he kept saying how he was out of practice for entertaining guests for dinner. I was touched by his nervousness and tried to let him know that whatever dinner was, it was OK with me.

He grilled tuna and veggies and had sauteed fresh spinach with garlic. Yummy! Oh, and he had cold shrimp cocktail for us as an appetizer. He ever pre-peeled it all!

I contributed ice cream (what else?!). All in all, a wonderful evening. *smile*

More later....I must move on to bed. Sweet dreams to all.

A great date

Well, it's Monday and I wanted to report on the date with BuffaloBoy. He phoned on Saturday and asked if it was OK to go out instead of him cooking for me. Um, yeah. Hello. I love to go out.

Of course, with his very casual look on life, I wasn't sure where we would go, or how to dress. After searching the closet and consulting with Twin and Little One on outfits, I decided on a nice pair of short, a feminine knit top and sandals. I dressed it up with a little make-up, pretty earrings and fixed my hair. When he showed up at the door, he had on cargo shorts and a casual shirt. He looked nice, but same as BuffaloBoy...casual. The good news: he has trimmed the facial hair, so I was very happy. I kept thinking about how it would be to kiss him when he was all hairy. It looked nice and neat. Yeah!

We went to a fabulous restaurant in our city....small and personal. One thing about BuffaloBoy: he likes, appreciates and doesn't mind spending for a good meal. Not that I need wining and dining all the time, but it is nice. We had martinis, then mussels in white wine and garlic. Yum. Then a main dish each (duck and lamb!) and a bottle of wine. Now, friends, you know I don't always drink that much, but we were having a great time talking and flirting a bit. And the wine helped!

After a long, relaxing dinner, we came back to my place and talked and watched a little TV. After a while, he said he had to get home. I think we were both a little too tipsy, so he was gentlemanly in his wanting to leave. We kissed (just a little one!) and hugged goodbye. Nice Saturday evening, no doubt about it.

And so, I move on....

Dinner date/Part 2

Well, after another nice phone call with BuffaloBoy, we have another dinner date set for this coming Saturday. Yeah! He is making dinner at his house for me. It will be interesting because it will show me kind of what he lives like and that gives you some insights.

We also talked about a book he is reading about Buddism. Sounded very interesting. I may borrow it in my quest to understand more about what has been going on in my life the last couple of years. And it was interesting to see how thoughful he is about his life.

More later. And so I move on.....

It never rains but it pours

Well, this is a week that has been interesting, to say the least, on the dating scene. Let me start from the beginning.

Early in the week, a nice call from BuffaloBoy. We made a date for later in the week. More update on that to come. Next, a phone call from the Chef. Now, the Chef is someone I dated maybe for a week more than a year ago. A. Year. Ago. But every so often I get a random call from him asking how I am, what I've been doing, who I'm dating. He's not my guy, never was. Nice? Sure. But just not mine. Cute? OK. But still, not mine.

The question is, why does he call me out of the blue? Lonely? Bored? Whatever. In fact, I remember how we stopped dating. I think he broke a date. And once you do that, I get the message. Plus, I wasn't crazy about him, he didn't have a good excuse, he didn't ask to re-schedule when he broke it. So there you go.

Next in the week, Trouble called. Now, I actually enjoy him in very small, very infrequent doses. He's amusing, silly and always wants to go get a Krispy Kreme donut. He is one of the first people I met on my online service. After a few dates, I knew he was not my guy. But we struck up a casual friendship and he has his heart in the right place. He's unreliable, in debt (and TOLD me about it), and extremely self-centered. But amusing, trust me. Anyway, he called wanted to know if I wanted to go the the movies that night. Mind you, he called about 8:30 pm,, wanting company for the 9:20 show. Again, was he bored, lonely? Whatever. Of course, "no," was my reply.

Finally, a call out of the blue from a man I was dating back in Dec, Jan and Feb. (see Thursday, March 23, 2006, "A date and a .38") We had been on and off; first he was acting too serious, then I decided I was still working my way through feelings for the Torch, then we tried to date again, we celebrated Valentine's Day together (nice dinner!), and then all of the sudden he broke a date via email. Strange. I felt bad, since he was a good guy and I worried that he just got a bad deal since The Torch was still haunting me on and off.

So, I hereby name him The Accountant. Anyway, he wanted to tell me that he was thinking of me and thought I was a "quality person." Well....yeah. I knew that. He didn't ask for a date, just wanted to catch up and see if I was open to being friends. Sure. Why not? I left the ball in his court. He can call back and ask for dinner or something if he choses. We left it open; he's heading out of town this week.

Finally, I came home from work on Friday and had a message from BuffaloBoy. He had to postphone our dinner date. That morning, he had gotten a call from his mother asking what time he was coming to visit for the Father's Day weekend. He was very apologetic and wanted a raincheck. Later in the afternoon, we chatted on the phone and he actually called to say hello on Saturday as well. Again, pretty nice guy.

And so I move on....

Things I love

Some things/products I love:

• Wrinkle release spray (can't remember the name)
• Maybelline mousse blush
• Low fat chocolate milk
• Gas-X (don't ask)
• Frosted Mini-wheats
• New bouncy tennis shoes
• Jockey no-line panties (the boy-cut especially)
• McDonald's french fries when they're hot

Saturday night's all right for....

Well, after another terrific conversation with BuffaloBoy last night on the phone, he has asked for another date. We were going to do dinner this week, but with schedules, it seemed the best to do it Saturday night. YEAH!

We talked about him cooking dinner for me at his place, and then about a band playing up north about 30 minutes. I said I was flexible and he could decide after pondering it for a while. He will call Saturday to confirm, etc. I said I'd bring wine (smile!).

It so interesting that after I ranted about not having connections with someone who could really converse, I've got this interesting guy who is willing to talk and really, truly communicate. I mean about feelings, fears, happiness, etc. Ex-husband was intelligent, but would not talk about anything too intimate (not sex; you know what I mean) ever. I think I might know more about what's going on in BuffaloBoy's mind than the 15 years of marriage. How can that be? Age? Experience? Could it be a real sense of himself, and knowing what he values out of life?

Pretty incredible. And so I move forward....

Dinner, rain, tennis and the deck

Sorry for the long gap between postings. I'll have to fill you in, so here goes....

Last Thursday I went out to meet BuffaloBoy for the first time. We had 2 wonderful phone chats and were supposed to meet for lunch. But he changed the plans and said that lunch was "short." We arranged to meet at a nearby restaurant. I was excited but nervous as I had only see one photo of him; it was a winter scene with him wearing a big coat and hat.

To make a long story short as possible, he is very cute in a granola-mountain man-grown-up grad student sort of way. Nice eyes, shaved head, and a bit of a scruffy beard and moustache. I personally would like the face hair trimmed a bit. He is nice, funny, articulate, thoughtful, smart and interesting. He likes art, music, books, movies. We had a great evening including dinner, a walk and a drink. It went very well, and at the end he asked for another date.

Since the weekend was kinda busy for both of us, we decided on a game of tennis on Sunday. BuffaloBoy arrived looking like a casual hiker ready to play tennis. We had a wonderful time, laughing and chasing tennis balls. After that, he suggested breakfast, but I offered to cook at home instead. Once again, terrific conversation. I'm really tickled that I've found someone that I have a connection with. Will this turn romantic? I'm not sure yet. I'm trying to take my time and just enjoy the moments.

And at the end of the Sunday meeting, BuffaloBoy asked if he could make me dinner this week. We talked about which evening was better and he said that he would call to arrange a date. Pretty nice. And so I move forward....

Ma Bell

Well, had a GREAT conversation with BuffaloBoy last evening. We talked for about 90 minutes and hit some great topics. It seems that we are on the same page on a lot of things. Art, music, food, being active, baggage at the age of 45, etc.

Happily, he made a lunch date for Thursday. While I'm trying not to get too excited, I'm really happy. Seems like it's been a while since I talked with someone who I clicked with so nicely.

And no weird comments either!

So, I move on toward Thursday.....

An open letter to Brad Pitt

Dear Brad:

Let me first congratulate you on the birth of your new daughter. While I'm not a parent, I can only imagine the joy of welcoming a new child into the world.

What I'd really like to talk to you about is your relationship with Angelina Jolie. As a 45 year-old divorced woman, I have lots of thoughts about relationships and getting into something 'way too fast. I mean, you only divorced Jennifer Aniston last year. And already you have a daughter with someone else?

Now, I'm not a prude. I understand that people have children out of wedlock all the time. My concerns lie in the fact that you both seemed to jump into this relationship a little fast. You met on a movie set, remember? That can't be a real world situation. Did you sit down and talk about how you were going to manage your finances? What about your dreams and fears? Did you talk about who was going to discipline the children? Or who was responsible for the dishes?

Did you both think back on previous relationships and look for the patterns and lessons that were there? Have you talked about what makes a good relationship to you and are you both on the same page? Did you wonder about what has made Angelina jump from man to man? Have you thought about how she said how much she was into BillyBob, then said the same things about you?

All of this comes from my experiences, thoughts and (hopefully) gained wisdom over the last 2 years. While I've enjoyed dating, and certainly most of my time with The Torch, I have also taken the time to think about what I might need to change in myself, what I should look out for a new partner, what I deserve. I'm looking for the right person for the long haul, not just someone who lights my fire in a superficial (read: sex) way. Someone who can share hopes and dreams. And someone who can interest me emotionally, intellectually and physically.

If Angelina does all this for you, my blessings to you. However, my thoughts are that you both should have taken some time to explore lessons from the last few years.

Best wishes,
Sassy

Potential and the Torch

Well, a new date this week. Or so I hope.
I've been emailing a nice gentleman from my online site. Let's call him BuffaloBoy. This is the "nice guy" from my last post.

I got a note asking about a lunch or cup of coffee and I replied in kind. So tonight we are going to chat on the phone for the first time.

I've been through this long enough to know that I shouldn't get too excited about anything. While things sounds good, that darned elusive chemistry is just not in my hands. I shall try to be my best, and remember that if that's not good enough, then he isn't my guy.

On another hand this last week, I have been thinking way too much about The Torch. I even had to go back in my journal to realize why I broke it off with him last fall and again this spring. I think the stressful week, combined with the lack of really quality dating, was making me miss him. He was very fun, very interesting, very sweet. But also not on the same page in the book of love as I am.

Also helpful was an article I found on Mr. Unavailable, a very useful blog. To sum it up, it points out that there are a lot of men out there who are unavailable for a myriad of reasons. And I need to remember that The Torch, for whatever reason, is not available to me. *sigh*

And so I move forward.....